Self love is probably one of the hardest concepts for us to grasp as humans. With so much going on in our outer world, we hardly ever take the time to look within. Those times that we do turn our eyes to ourselves it is almost always with criticism: “My nose is too long” “My thighs are too big” “I don’t pay enough attention to my family” ‘I really suck at communicating”. Whatever our go-to phrase is, we often bully and shame ourselves into trying to do better but it doesn’t work. The reason this doesn’t work is because of the low vibration of energy that you are using to try and create change.
When you bully yourself, you feel badly which lowers your vibration and makes it hard to find the motivation to do what you actually want to do or change what you want to change. I think it is safe to say that most people have the desire to be happy in their life and if we take a minute to think about the feeling of happiness we find that it is a very uplifting, high vibrational energy. It is difficult to achieve happiness if we are stuck in the low vibration cycle of criticism and shaming. So how to we break this cycle?
Self-love. Now, this is really easy to say but monumentally hard to do because when I say “self-love” what I really mean is “unconditional self-love”. Imagine how you would feel if you loved yourself as much as your dog loves you. Animals are unbelievable examples of unconditional love. We have all seen the videos on Facebook of dogs playing with deer, of the cat saving a puppy from a ravine, and of the whale saving the human from a shark. How can we achieve that level of unconditional love towards ourselves?
We have to start small. We have to be kinder to ourselves. When we make a perceived “mistake”, instead of beating ourselves up about it we have to move on to what we have learned from the situation. How has this situation better prepared us for when this happens again? When we find ourselves slipping into the cycle of self-deprecation we need to remind ourselves what we love about ourselves. We need to find a way to support ourselves and our goals in a way that raises our vibration so we can attract more of what we want.
As you may have guessed but now, one great way of raising your vibration and promoting self-love is with the help of crystals. The number one go-to stone for love of any kind is rose quartz. This pink stone is the ultimate comfort stone. Its energy is a soothing balm to the emotions and uplifting in its support of the heart chakra.
The heart chakra governs the feeling of love, joy and happiness so if you find that you are really struggling with any of these things working with a stone that supports this chakra is going to be very beneficial.
Another helpful stone for supporting the heart chakra is chrysoprase. This green stone also helps to break cycles and thought patterns as well as promoting forgiveness making a really great choice if you are struggling with negative thought patterns where you shame and bully yourself.
I would also highly recommend working with Charoite. While it is associated with the crown chakra and not the heart, it has been my experience that this stone is very helpful in managing emotions that get a little out of control. It is also good at breaking patterns and cycles but also works to lead you towards your path of service or soul purpose. Its higher vibration helps to connect you to higher divine guidance and purpose.
To support yourself, I would recommend carrying a tumbled stone in your pocket or wearing them in jewelry. I will also have rose quartz bracelets available soon in my shop on Facebook. I also have a Heart Chakra Gem Oil available for sale that you can check out.
To support myself this month I have created a crystal grid of rose quartz and clear quartz points. If you find yourself in need of a little extra support and love this month please feel free to take a moment to close your eyes and connect into this grid which is pictured below. Just take a deep breath and feel the energy moving through your body. If you feel drawn to, repeat the mantra “I am loved” as you continue to breathe the energy through your body. When you have finished basking in the loving energy of the grid please take a moment to ground yourself back into your body before continuing on with your day. If you feel drawn to do so please share your experiences either in the comments here or on my Facebook page!