Change your Mentality – Learn to be the Ambassador of Yes rather than the Minister of No

Besides crystals, my other great passion in life is horses. This past weekend I had the opportunity to watch a clinician play with some horses and completely embody the principle of Parelli Natural Horsemanship, the program that I follow with my own horse. For quite a while now I have been aware of the parallels between the principles of natural horsemanship and my own spiritual work but I made a realization this weekend that I wanted to share with all of you.

One of the phrases that Pat Parelli says most when teaching humans how to better communicate with horses and build stronger relationships is that we, as humans, need to learn how to become the Ambassador of Yes rather than the Minister of No. What this means, in a nutshell, is that we need to focus more on encouraging positive thoughts and actions in our horses rather than reprimanding and saying “no, don’t do that!”. It’s all about shifting yourself into a more positive frame of mind so that both you and your horse can communicate more effectively and with more relaxation.

The more I think about this the clearer it becomes to me that this concept can be applied to everyday life outside of horses.

There is a lot of the “Minister of No” mentality in society today. For example:

“No, you can’t do that because you are too young”

“No, you can’t love that person because they’re not the right gender”

“No, we can’t buy that because. . .”

“No, we can’t go there. . . “

If you find yourself using the words “can’t” or “don’t do that” a lot you are most likely operating under the “Minister of No” mentality.  It is very easy to get caught up in all of the things we can’t do. We are conditioned from an early age to notice all of our flaws and compare ourselves to others.

Personally, outside of my work with my horse, I have been finding myself getting really hung up recently on all of the things that I can’t do because I need to save money to cover my bills. The more I follow this train of thought the more “can’t”s present themselves until I am drowning in all of the things I can’t do to the point where I don’t have the energy to do anything.

Seeing this clinician this weekend and how he embodied this concept with the horses and understanding this concept in that form has really helped me to realize that I need to shift my mindset of my everyday life. Instead of focusing on what I can’t do, I need to redirect my energy into encouraging myself and reminding myself of what I can do. Like I said earlier it’s all about shifting yourself into a more positive frame of mind only instead of improving communication and promoting relaxation in a horse you are doing this for yourself.

Naturally, because I am me, I turned to my crystals for some support and further insight into this work. The stone that presented itself was unexpected but impossible to ignore in in its insistence. That stone was red jasper. Along with the stone I could also feel the energy of my friend’s last horse who just so happened to get his name from this very stone. He was an exuberant and playful young horse who was very much the life of the party much like the energy I was getting from this stone. When I held it I just got this sense of vitality and energy. When I tuned in to receive its message – and Jasper’s – this is what they had to say:

“Being the Ambassador of Yes is all about finding that invigorating energy that keeps you moving forward without falling into your ego. Once the ego takes over, you are once again become the Minister of No.”

I very much got the sense that this was about finding balance in how your energy is focused. It’s almost as if you need to keep the fire at a slow burn rather than a blaze because you need to be able to maintain conscious control over the energy otherwise, when the energy gets out of hand, the ego takes over.  It’s almost as if the ego over compensates for the excess energy and confidence by dragging you back down. Also if you are throwing yourself full throttle at something you are more likely to burn yourself out at which point it can be hard to build your energy back up with you ego whispering all of your “can’ts” in your ear.

So far I have been resonating really strongly with the vibration of red jasper and feel that it is going to act as the metronome for my energy, keeping me on track and stable in my energy.  I plan to spend a few minutes everyday just sitting with this stone and attuning myself to its energy so that I can become the Ambassador of Yes for myself.

I will keep you all apprised of my progress through my social media in shorter more “in the moment” type posts and I really encourage you to try this for yourself. Take a look at how you go about things in your life and take note of how many times you say “no”, “can’t” or “don’t”. Find some red jasper or any other stone that resonates with you and start to focus on what you can do:

“I can’t buy that thing right now, but I can pick up another shift and get it next week.”

“I can’t marry the person I love right now, but I can spend the rest of my life with them regardless and I can fight for our right to love whomever we choose”

“I might be young but I can plan for my future and set myself up for success”

“Just because I can’t do it now doesn’t mean I can’t do it forever. If I keep moving forward, if I keep my energy strong, I can do anything.”

Anything is possible, just keep moving forward.



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