Not So Unexpected Changes – Learning to Embrace Change Rather than Avoid It.

Despite what I would like to think, change isn’t something that just suddenly happens. Change is a process. It ebbs and it flows. As you know if you have been following me on Facebook or Instagram I have been going through some pretty significant change this month and making a lot of discoveries about how I handle change. I wanted to share the full story with you all because I feel like I learn best from experiences even if they aren’t my own and I hope my story can help you identify your own habits where change is involved.

I want to start out by saying that change is not my favorite thing. I am very happy to just stay inside my little bubble of perceived routine. This change that I am experiencing now is not something that has come out of left field, taking me by surprise and causing me to make a quick decision. It is a change that I have been aware of for well over a month now. What makes it new and different for me is that my own change is being spurred be a change in one of the lives of my good friends.

My friend Michele is moving out of the country and it is all happening a lot faster than we originally expected. Michele is exceptional at flowing with change and going where she is called to go so when the timeline sped up she didn’t even bat an eye. Me on the other hand . . . not so much. It is my innate response when I feel things are moving too fast and the pressure is building I tend to slow down and back off of what I think I ought to be doing. I don’t necessarily do this consciously but when I look back I can see it very clearly.

About two weeks ago this was the state I was in. I found myself falling into an unmotivated funk that I couldn’t understand at the time. After I spent an entire day reading and ignoring my responsibilities my horse, Scout, decided to enlighten me.

When I woke up the morning after my day of reading I  had a text from Michele saying that she had woken up to find Scout outside of the paddock. When she went out to investigate later she found that he had pulled down most of the upper paddock when he got out. This concerned both of us because he was going to be moving to a new place soon that  only had electric. He had gotten out a couple of times before but had recently been very good about respecting the fence. I told her I would check in with him and see if I could figure out what was going on.

It turns out what I thought was about him really ended up being about me. When I first sat down to meditate with him I didn’t get much because my brain was in the way. I was worrying too much about the “implications” of his actions and how they would affect the move. When I finally calmed myself down to connect with him I kept getting the sense from him that with this breakout he was trying to bring my attention to something. From there I got the sense that he was trying to make the situation real. He was trying to make me come to terms with the fact that he was ready to move and it was time for me to make sure I was. He made me aware of the fact that I was separating myself from the fact that the change was happening, both with myself and Michele. I had been kind of sticking my head in the sand and not fully acknowledging it. He then delivered the sucker punch:

She has been so influential in your life but it is time for you to step into your own knowing and believe that you are fully capable of making these decisions on your own. It is time for you to rely on you.

In essence, he broke out of the paddock to bring attention to the fact that I needed to break out of the pattern of avoidance that I was following around this change and start making the decisions I needed to make to move him.

This opened me up to the next lesson in this whole series of events which was to trust myself and not get caught up in my mind.

Because he had broken out of the electric fence I was now feeling really unsure about the place that I was planning on moving him because it also would only have electric and he was going to be there by himself for a while. Michele had also suggested to me after he broke out that he may need a busier, more stimulating environment where I could ride and work with him more.

Not knowing what to do, I worked myself up into quite the anxious worried mess over the next couple of days trying to figure out what the “right” decision was. I over-analyzed every thought and feeling trying to find the answer. I knew I should try and take this opportunity to learn how to better handle change but I couldn’t figure out how to stop myself from over thinking everything and get out of my head. I was making a mountain out of a mole-hill.

After a few days of this I was finally able to have a long conversation with Michele about everything I was feeling. She told me that it was all about identifying what I needed and then gathering information without letting my brain run away with me. In talking through everything with her I also became aware that Scout didn’t really care where he was as long as I was there and I was able to work with him more than I had been. This was all about me, as it had been from the very beginning.

And then – once again – the kicker of the lesson was delivered. Michele and I realized that I had misunderstood her. When she had suggested to me that she thought Scout would need a busier environment I had interpreted it as permanently and, because I trust her and value her opinion, I changed my plan and began looking at other places than what I had planned. What she had actually meant was that she thought he needed to be at a busier place until he was no longer going to be alone at the place I had originally planned on moving him to.

In this situation I trusted her more than I trusted myself and even though our plans ended up lining up in the end I still let her opinion change my mind about something that I had felt was the right decision. My anxiety over this whole problem stemmed from the fact that I held her opinion over mine. In our talk I realized this and she also pointed it out to me as well.

It all circles back to the message that my very wise horse gave me about stepping into my own knowing and relying on myself. I am happy to say that I am far less anxious than I was for those few days and am continuing to learn more and more about how to better handle change.

One of the strategies that has been helping me is to be present in change. One of the things that I struggled with during those anxious few days was that I was spending most of my time trying to figure out what the future was going to look like after the change than I did actually working through the change and taking the steps I needed to take. I talk about this more in this Crystal Tip Tuesday video on my Facebook page.

Another realization that I have gleaned from this whole experience is that change isn’t an event. It doesn’t have a beginning and an end. Throughout this process I have been thinking and acting like this decision I was making was a final decision and I couldn’t change it. Subconsciously my mind was telling me that I had to make the “right” decision because I wouldn’t be able to change it. This stemmed from a fear of being wrong.

The last thing I want to share with you all is what I learned about vulnerability. I have procrastinated writing this piece even though I told you all on my Facebook page and in that video that I would have it to you by then of last week. I could lie to you all and tell you it is because I have been busy with all the changes that are happening but the truth is that I had plenty of time. I have been avoiding it because I was scared of exposing my vulnerability. I felt like I was exposing weakness to all of you by admitting in writing just how anxious and out of control I felt and still feel somewhat. Exposing your vulnerabilities to others, I have realized, also opens you up more fully to yourself exposing all of your fears not just the ones that you are choosing to share. They all want to be acknowledged but often times we don’t know how to do that so we lock them away. There is something very freeing about sharing or exposing your vulnerabilities, even if it is just with yourself. Sit down and ask yourself what makes you feel exposed; What don’t you want other people to see? From there you can work through why you feel that way and move towards fully acknowledging and accepting what you are afraid of.

I strongly believe that all the work I have been doing with my stones this year has prepared me for this series of changes that are occurring. I have written about self-love, forgiveness and fear and all of the strategies and stones involved in that work have acted as support for me in the last couple of weeks and onward.

I wanted to share this experience with you all because we all experience change and if  my experience and the lessons that I have learned can help someone else than I want to share them. If you have any questions or just need someone to bounce your ideas about change off of please don’t hesitate to contact me. I am happy to help in any way that I can.

Namaste

The Importance of Self-Love

Self love is probably one of the hardest concepts for us to grasp as humans. With so much going on in our outer world, we hardly ever take the time to look within. Those times that we do turn our eyes to ourselves it is almost always with criticism: “My nose is too long” “My thighs are too big” “I don’t pay enough attention to my family” ‘I really suck at communicating”. Whatever our go-to phrase is, we often bully and shame ourselves into trying to do better but it doesn’t work. The reason this doesn’t work is because of the low vibration of energy that you are using to try and create change.

When you bully yourself, you feel badly which lowers your vibration and makes it hard to find the motivation to do what you actually want to do or change what you want to change. I think it is safe to say that most people have the desire to be happy in their life and if we take a minute to think about the feeling of happiness we find that it is a very uplifting, high vibrational energy. It is difficult to achieve happiness if we are stuck in the low vibration cycle of criticism and shaming. So how to we break this cycle?

Self-love. Now, this is really easy to say but monumentally hard to do because when I say “self-love” what I really mean is “unconditional self-love”. Imagine how you would feel if you loved yourself as much as your dog loves you. Animals are unbelievable examples of unconditional love. We have all seen the videos on Facebook of dogs playing with deer, of the cat saving a puppy from a ravine, and of the whale saving the human from a shark. How can we achieve that level of unconditional love towards ourselves?

We have to start small. We have to be kinder to ourselves. When we make a perceived “mistake”, instead of beating ourselves up about it we have to move on to what we have learned from the situation. How has this situation better prepared us for when this happens again? When we find ourselves slipping into the cycle of self-deprecation we need to remind ourselves what we love about ourselves. We need to find a way to support ourselves and our goals in a way that raises our vibration so we can attract more of what we want.

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As you may have guessed but now, one great way of raising your vibration and promoting self-love is with the help of crystals. The number one go-to stone for love of any kind is rose quartz. This pink stone is the ultimate comfort stone. Its energy is a soothing balm to the emotions and uplifting in its support of the heart chakra.

The heart chakra governs the feeling of love, joy and happiness so if you find that you are really struggling with any of these things working with a stone that supports this chakra is going to be very beneficial.

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Another helpful stone for supporting the heart chakra is chrysoprase. This green stone also helps to break cycles and thought patterns as well as promoting forgiveness making a really great choice if you are struggling with negative thought patterns where you shame and bully yourself. 

I would also highly recommend working with Charoite. While it is associated with the crown chakra and not the heart, it has been my experience that this stone is very helpful in managing emotions that get a little out of control. It is also good at breaking patterns and cycles but also works to lead you towards your path of service or soul purpose. Its higher vibration helps to connect you to higher divine guidance and purpose.

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To support yourself, I would recommend carrying a tumbled stone in your pocket or wearing them in jewelry. I will also have rose quartz bracelets available soon in my shop on Facebook. I also have a Heart Chakra Gem Oil available for sale that you can check out.

To support myself this month I have created a crystal grid of rose quartz and clear quartz points. If you find yourself in need of a little extra support and love this month please feel free to take a moment to close your eyes and connect into this grid which is pictured below. Just take a deep breath and feel the energy moving through your body. If you feel drawn to, repeat the mantra “I am loved” as you continue to breathe the energy through your body. When you have finished basking in the loving energy of the grid please take a moment to ground yourself back into your body before continuing on with your day. If you feel drawn to do so please share your experiences either in the comments here or on my Facebook page!

Namaste everyone!

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“Self-love is built on the purest of intentions followed by the kindest urging of the soul towards thoughts that build on the feelings of the heart”

My Forgotten Chakra

I had a really interesting experience last week during a session with the fabulous Michele Lowry of Nikoe Natural Therapies. I scheduled the session to get some insight into how I could better support myself nutritionally. In our conversation before the session started, I also mentioned that I had some soreness around the base of my neck. I had read in a brochure on digestion from Dynamite Specialty Products that when digestion is poor a person can develop a hump at the base of their neck where it meets their shoulders because over stimulation to nerves in this area that stimulate digestion so I thought the soreness I was experiencing in this area could be related to that.

Unsurprisingly, the session revealed that there were quite a few changes I needed to make to support myself nutritionally but there was more going on energetically with my neck than I had originally thought. Michele told me that I had energy pushing down on the top of my head that was putting pressure on the base of my neck much like a heavy weight would. To help me relieve this pressure she had me visualize a door opening in the top of my head and focus on moving the energy upwards into the divine. When I did as she asked I literally imagined a piece of my skull popping open like a hatch and saw a lot of pink energy flowing upwards from the opening. Within this column of pink light I also saw little lotus flowers blooming. The tension at the base of my neck eased almost immediately.

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This experience floored me because I realized that I had been trying to deal with the brain fog and unsettledness I had been feeling in my head by grounding myself when I really had to relieve the pressure by opening my crown chakra. It has never once occured to me to relieve this pressure by moving energy upwards. The more I thought about the experience the more I came to realize that my crown chakra had been almost completely closed and the energy from the divine was pushing on it to get in while the energy that flows through the other six chakras was getting stuck inside my head and resulting in the feeling of being ungrounded.

Furthermore, I also realized how very  little I think about my crown chakra. I don’t have any memories of doing any consistent work with it. It is always just kind of there. My focus is almost always on one of the lower physical chakras like the sacral, solar plexus, or heart. I think it is about time that I payed some attention to this forgotten chakra!

Simply being aware of the fact that this is the chakra I forget about has already done wonders for keeping this chakra energized simply because I am paying more attention to it. Since the session I have also been visualizing a lotus flower at my crown chakra to help keep it open and the energy flowing through it and I have been using a Crown Chakra Gem Oil that I made from crystal elixirs and essential oils to help support it.

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Now I have a challenge for you! Identify your forgotten chakra! This may be as easy as identifying which chakra you don’t think about but if you find you are having difficulties think about what has been bothering you lately either physically or emotionally. Ask yourself questions. Is it easier to move energy up or down through your body? Where does the energy feel stuck? You can even ask your stones! If you happen to have a chakra set – which I highly recommend – place all the stones in a bag, shake them up a little focusing on the intention of identifying your forgotten chakra and then pull out a stone! The same technique can be used when visiting a stone shop. Focus your energy on finding a stone to help you support your forgotten chakra, whether you know which one it is or not, and see what stone or stones you are drawn to then look up their chakra associations. Also, here is a lovely image I found tells you what each chakra is governed by and what blocks it. Please feel free to share your experiences here or on facebook! Namaste to all!

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What do I do here at Earth Speaks Crystal Healing?

About Me

Crystals have been in my life as far as I can remember. I have memories from when I was very young of going into stone shops and picking out stones. I also spent a lot of time outside collecting buckets full of rocks, some of which are still laying around the house today! After college, the universe let me know that the plan that I had created for the rest of my life was not my true purpose. I entered into a period of self-discovery where it finally occurred to me that my calling was crystals.  I signed up for the Hibiscus Moon Crystal Academy Certified Crystal Healer course and graduated in August of 2016. I created Earth Speaks Crystal Healing with the intention of promoting health and well-being for humans and animals physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually with the help of Earth’s crystals and stones.

What is crystal healing?

Crystal healing is a minimal contact therapy that facilitates healing, stress relief, release of emotional blockages, spiritual growth and much more. This is achieved through the interaction of the unique vibratory properties of crystals and stones with our own energy fields. The unstable energies associated with stress and illnesses entrain or move into alignment with the more stable frequencies and vibrations of the crystals allowing for healing to occur.

What does a crystal healing session look like?

In my work with crystals I have come to realize that the interaction between an individual and a crystal is a unique experience. A crystal that inspires joy in one person may trigger a release of grief in another. In a crystal session I work with the seven main energy centers of the body, called chakras. Placing crystals on these energy centers allows the unique vibratory properties if crystals to clear any energy blockages and return the chakra to its normal energetic state through entrainment of the two energies. During the session I also connect with the stones to gather messages and information about what is going on at each of the chakras and what the individual can do to support him or her self in that area.

I currently offer healing sessions in two lengths: 30 minutes and 60 minutes. A 30 minute session focuses on balancing one or two chakras or a specific intention such as relaxation, manifesting a new job, pain relief, etc. A 60 minute session includes a full chakra balancing where I will go through and check the energy and balance of all of the chakras and then use the crystals to bring the chakras back into balance. An intention can also be set for a 60 min session as well. I also offer Remote Crystal Guidance sessions which is a four stone crystal reading done remotely where I tap into the energy of the crystals or stones and communicate their messages to you regarding a specific question or intention.

The prices for each session are as follows:

30 minutes: $40        60 minutes: $70        Remote Crystal Guidance session: $45

Products

Here at Earth Speaks Crystal Healing I am dedicated to creating custom quality gemstone products that enhance well-being and quality of life of both humans and our animal counterparts. These products include a variety of gemstone bracelets, collar/bridle charms, gem oils, gem elixirs and more! Check out my Facebook page and Instagram @earth_speaks_crystal_healing to check everything out!

Contact

You can contact me through my Facebook page and email me at earthspeakscrystalhealing@gmail.com or you can text or call me at 603-765-1382 to schedule a session!

From Self Care to Self Worth: Messages from Spirit Quartz

I find it difficult to take care of myself energetically. In my mind I am always too busy to take time out for myself and assess how I am doing. It is not until I am really struggling emotionally or physically that I stop and do something about it. One such night, when I was overwhelmed emotionally, I sat down in my room before bed and decided that I needed to try and do something about the way I was feeling.

I grabbed my spirit quartz (pictured above) with the intention of doing some self worth work. This stone was already a part of a grid I had set up to help support me in this area. However, when I sat down and tried to connect to the stone, I couldn’t get through. When this happens to me I am either not focused enough to meditate or I don’t have the right stone so I decided to switch stones. I grabbed my black tourmaline thinking that I needed to transmute the negative energy and emotions that I felt swirling around me but still I couldn’t connect in. My heart was pounding at this point and it occurred to me that I needed to grab a stone associated with the heart chakra to help calm it. I grabbed a rose quartz wand and a selenite wand and set myself up to do a whole body layout with all of the stones that had presented themselves to me. I placed the black tourmaline at my feet for grounding, the selenite wand vertically on my abdomen, the rose quartz on my heart with the point facing down and my spirit quartz on my forehead.

After laying like this for a few minutes, I removed the selenite wand from my abdomen and began using it to scan my chakras for imbalances. Every chakra except for my heart chakra presented as imbalanced. I cleared and re-balanced them and then performed a whole aura sealing finding weak spots at my left elbow and knee, the bottom of my right foot, and the right side of my rib cage.

I got the impression that I was feeling the way I did energetically because my own energy was leaking out of my auric field through these spots and other foreign energy was making its way in. This foreign energy was irritating me on an energetic level and causing me to be more reactive to stimuli from people or things around me.

After sealing my aura to prevent this transfer of energy I felt much better and was able to connect in to my spirit quartz and received the following message.

Keeping yourself whole is probably the most important thing you can do right now in this period of abundant change. Your worries are the indicators of your growth. Just when you think you can’t stand it anymore you will break through and fly to new heights. Embrace your challenges, embrace your fears and accept yourself as you are. The only way others will is if you do. Self worth starts with self care. If you can’t take care of yourself you won’t feel like you are worth anything and neither will anyone else because your energy is not full and confident when it interacts with theirs whether they are aware of it or not.

We too often forget ourselves in our quest to take care of other people. Most of the time we forget that in order to achieve success we have to maintain ourselves first. In this case, I wasn’t capable of working on what I wanted to work on until I addressed the true issue: my energetic imbalances which had begun to manifest emotionally and physically because I had not acknowledged them.

Spirit quartz is a master of self worth. It is proud and regal yet compassionate and forgiving. It shows us that we can also be this way. It leads us to our own sense of royalty. It asks us to care for ourselves first, as we care for others.

This is a work in progress for me, but I am on my way. Now it your turn!

Take care of yourself!

Namaste