Change your Mentality – Learn to be the Ambassador of Yes rather than the Minister of No

Besides crystals, my other great passion in life is horses. This past weekend I had the opportunity to watch a clinician play with some horses and completely embody the principle of Parelli Natural Horsemanship, the program that I follow with my own horse. For quite a while now I have been aware of the parallels between the principles of natural horsemanship and my own spiritual work but I made a realization this weekend that I wanted to share with all of you.

One of the phrases that Pat Parelli says most when teaching humans how to better communicate with horses and build stronger relationships is that we, as humans, need to learn how to become the Ambassador of Yes rather than the Minister of No. What this means, in a nutshell, is that we need to focus more on encouraging positive thoughts and actions in our horses rather than reprimanding and saying “no, don’t do that!”. It’s all about shifting yourself into a more positive frame of mind so that both you and your horse can communicate more effectively and with more relaxation.

The more I think about this the clearer it becomes to me that this concept can be applied to everyday life outside of horses.

There is a lot of the “Minister of No” mentality in society today. For example:

“No, you can’t do that because you are too young”

“No, you can’t love that person because they’re not the right gender”

“No, we can’t buy that because. . .”

“No, we can’t go there. . . “

If you find yourself using the words “can’t” or “don’t do that” a lot you are most likely operating under the “Minister of No” mentality.  It is very easy to get caught up in all of the things we can’t do. We are conditioned from an early age to notice all of our flaws and compare ourselves to others.

Personally, outside of my work with my horse, I have been finding myself getting really hung up recently on all of the things that I can’t do because I need to save money to cover my bills. The more I follow this train of thought the more “can’t”s present themselves until I am drowning in all of the things I can’t do to the point where I don’t have the energy to do anything.

Seeing this clinician this weekend and how he embodied this concept with the horses and understanding this concept in that form has really helped me to realize that I need to shift my mindset of my everyday life. Instead of focusing on what I can’t do, I need to redirect my energy into encouraging myself and reminding myself of what I can do. Like I said earlier it’s all about shifting yourself into a more positive frame of mind only instead of improving communication and promoting relaxation in a horse you are doing this for yourself.

Naturally, because I am me, I turned to my crystals for some support and further insight into this work. The stone that presented itself was unexpected but impossible to ignore in in its insistence. That stone was red jasper. Along with the stone I could also feel the energy of my friend’s last horse who just so happened to get his name from this very stone. He was an exuberant and playful young horse who was very much the life of the party much like the energy I was getting from this stone. When I held it I just got this sense of vitality and energy. When I tuned in to receive its message – and Jasper’s – this is what they had to say:

“Being the Ambassador of Yes is all about finding that invigorating energy that keeps you moving forward without falling into your ego. Once the ego takes over, you are once again become the Minister of No.”

I very much got the sense that this was about finding balance in how your energy is focused. It’s almost as if you need to keep the fire at a slow burn rather than a blaze because you need to be able to maintain conscious control over the energy otherwise, when the energy gets out of hand, the ego takes over.  It’s almost as if the ego over compensates for the excess energy and confidence by dragging you back down. Also if you are throwing yourself full throttle at something you are more likely to burn yourself out at which point it can be hard to build your energy back up with you ego whispering all of your “can’ts” in your ear.

So far I have been resonating really strongly with the vibration of red jasper and feel that it is going to act as the metronome for my energy, keeping me on track and stable in my energy.  I plan to spend a few minutes everyday just sitting with this stone and attuning myself to its energy so that I can become the Ambassador of Yes for myself.

I will keep you all apprised of my progress through my social media in shorter more “in the moment” type posts and I really encourage you to try this for yourself. Take a look at how you go about things in your life and take note of how many times you say “no”, “can’t” or “don’t”. Find some red jasper or any other stone that resonates with you and start to focus on what you can do:

“I can’t buy that thing right now, but I can pick up another shift and get it next week.”

“I can’t marry the person I love right now, but I can spend the rest of my life with them regardless and I can fight for our right to love whomever we choose”

“I might be young but I can plan for my future and set myself up for success”

“Just because I can’t do it now doesn’t mean I can’t do it forever. If I keep moving forward, if I keep my energy strong, I can do anything.”

Anything is possible, just keep moving forward.



Guilt vs. Gratitude – How physical injury lead to a change in mindset

Hello again everyone! First off I want to thank everyone who is reading this. I am extremely grateful for your support and time. As you might have guessed from the title I have been working with gratitude recently and in keeping with that it was important for me to let you all know how much I appreciate you. The concept for this post actually came to me back in February but I never really sat down and explored what it meant. Well it has come back to me, as it usually does, in a form that is ever expanding and shifting. Just when I sat down to write this my understanding of the situation grew. Anyway, let me start at the beginning so that you have a better understanding of what I am starting to ramble about.

As you may have noticed, I have been rather absent for the last couple of months. I got really busy pet sitting in April and May and got really disconnected from my crystal work in all the shuffling and moving around. I stopped working on myself consistently and fell out of the rhythm of things.

Naturally the universe had other plans. Cue the wake up call. Remember earlier when I said I never really sat down to work on this concept? Well, when I continuously ignore something the universe tends to throw hard curve balls at me to knock me on my butt and get me to pay attention. This time it was literal.

I was leaving one of my pet sitting clients houses to go and meet another client about walking her dogs the next week and I took a bad step down onto the walkway. One terrifying crunching noise later I am on my back on the ground with my feet in the air, my ankle throbbing and the phrase “F@#$ I just broke my ankle and I am alone.” running through my head. I could feel myself starting to panic and I was quick to put a damper on it so I could assess myself. I first asked myself if I could move it: yes. Can you put weight on it? Yes. Can you walk on it? Yes. All of it hurt some and I could see my ankle swelling but I was reassured that I didn’t need to call an ambulance. I got to my car immediately put some doTERRA Deep Blue essential oil on my ankle and took some arnica homeopathics.

This is when I started to cry. I am not typically one to cry when I get hurt but I was sobbing. I kept hearing the crunching noise in my head and, while the fact I could walk on the ankle reassured me some, I knew that I still had done some serious damage. All I could think about was how, if I had just seriously injured myself, I wasn’t going to be able to work. I felt guilty about the possibility not being able to do what my clients needed me to do. Then I started feeling guilty about how my parents would need to support me because I couldn’t do what I needed to do. The shock of the incident brought all of these feelings to the surface and it was really very intense.

By the end of the day I couldn’t walk on the ankle. My parents had to help me walk the dog I was taking care of and I still struggled with the guilt that they had to do this. When I started to asses why this may have happened to me now, I became more aware of how I have been struggling with these feelings of guilt for longer than I thought – probably since February when this idea of shifting from guilt to gratitude first came to me.

Naturally, as I was laid up, I had the opportunity to explore this concept and these feelings and experiences. One of the first things I realized was that this was a clear sign that I needed to slow down as I literally couldn’t move around the next day. I didn’t realize how much I had come to rely of moving and doing and go go go until I couldn’t easily get around on my own. The second thing was that I really needed to take the time to take care of myself and I needed to accept that it was okay to do that. It didn’t make me selfish if I had to  call my clients and say I couldn’t walk their dog because I had sprained my ankle. Third, It was okay to ask for and accept help from others and just be grateful.

It was after this realization that I shifted my focus to gratitude. I realized that I have difficulty expressing gratitude because on a deeper level I feel ashamed for having needed to ask for help in the first place.

This is not a new thing. I have always had issues asking other people for things, even something as simple as going up to a sales associate in a department store and asking if they had more sizes. I have gotten better over the years but when push comes to shove I would still rather not have to ask. What I needed was never important enough, or at least that is what I told myself.

This is when I knew that I was just barely brushing the surface with my exploration of guilt and gratitude.

The real issue for me is around self worth. Again this is not something that is coming out of left field for me. In the back of my mind I am always aware that I am not confident in myself and my abilities. I get embarrassed when I get praised because I don’t feel like what I did was enough.

This whole experience has made me realize that it is really time to sit down and do this deeper work. This is the piece that is holding me back from who I truly want to be.

My intentions for this week were to focus on thinking more positively and communicating what I want. When I sat down to meditate with the blue kyanite that wanted to help me this week, gratitude came back up for me. The stone let me know that focusing on communicating my gratitude will help me open up my throat chakra, which is by far my weakest energy center.

So far I have found that just focusing on communicating more effectively has already done a lot as far as my confidence is concerned. I feel better about myself when I realize that saying “no” or making a decision not to do something with someone doesn’t mean that they are going to hate me. It’s not going to negatively affect my relationships if I take the time I need to take care of myself. If it does then clearly that isn’t a relationship worth having right? Definitely not.

Anyway, I still have a lot of work to do in the self-worth department but I feel like I am off to a very good start. I plan to sit down and investigate that more specifically and – of course – see what my lovely crystal guides have to say about the whole scenario.


Embracing Forgiveness Through Stillness

This whole adventure started when I sat down and selected stones to support me in my weekly intentions. This particular week I had decided to work on something that had really been nagging at me: forgiveness. In the last few weeks of February I began to notice that there were a number of instances where I had been reminded of past events that had hurt me. I realized that I still had a lot of unresolved emotion around these events and the people involved and became aware that holding on to these emotions was holding me back from moving forward. I decided that I needed to do some more focused work with forgiving myself and others and what better way to do this than with crystals!

Funnily enough, the night before I chose the stones I was guided a forgiveness ritual as I was journaling before heading to bed for the night (Stay tuned this comes into play for you later ;p) . It just made perfect sense at that moment that forgiveness was going to be what I was working on for the week. Anyway, the stone that jumped out as my guide in this work was a small zoisite heart that I have had for a very long time. Despite having it for so long I had never worked with this stone as extensively as I have in the past week and a half.


It immediately struck me as significant that this stone was both green and shaped like a heart as I knew intuitively that this forgiveness work was going to be completely heart centered. However, when I sat down and tried to connect into the stone I wasn’t getting any messages. Through a lot of trial and error I have learned not to jump to the conclusion that this means I will not be able to do the work I want to do. Instead, I start asking myself or the stone questions become aware of any impressions I get or thoughts that pop into my mind. In this case, when I paused to ask questions another stone popped into my head that had also been catching my eye a lot in recent days: a heart shaped golden sheen obsidian. It struck me immediately once again that this stone was heart shaped.


This time, when I sat down to meditate with zoisite in my left hand and obsidian in my right, the information just started flowing.

I knew immediately that this was going to be a writing experience. I knew that the only way I was going to be able to convey the significance of this work was to provide all of you with a detailed account of my own personal experience. Next came images of landscapes – grassy plains, mountains, open sky. All of them were empty. All were still and quiet. I just sat and basked in this stillness finding it refreshing and incredibly peaceful. It is at this point that the true name of this experience was revealed to me: “Embracing Forgiveness through Stillness”. The longer I sat however, the more I felt like something needed to be drawn out from behind my heart in order to access the feelings I needed to do the ritual that I had thought up the night before. To help pull these feelings out I held the obsidian to my heart for a few minutes.

I started to feel very raw and a little shaky – like a shift had been made energetically.

I was then guided the image of a crystal grid in a lemiscate or figure eight/infinity pattern. I saw the energy flowing slowly in this grid and through me as I held the two stones in opposite hands resting on my knees and heard these words:

“You have to draw up the feelings from a place of objectivity or you are merely adding fuel to the fire.”

In other words, in order to release the negative feelings you have towards a person or event you have to draw them up with out becoming immersed in them. You have to be able to look at the experience from the outside to truly identify and name what you are releasing and forgiving in yourself or others. At this point, my brain nearly imploding from all the insight, I brought myself out of the meditation and set about building the grid pictured below. I yawned a lot as I did this which, for me, has always been a sign that I am releasing something or have experienced a significant energetic shift.

“Embracing Forgiveness through Stillness” – made up of zoisite, golden sheen obsidian, small hematite tumbles, clear quartz points, and a tourmalated quartz center stone.

It wasn’t over yet. My second session with these stones was much more intense than the first. This session took place in the evening and as I flitted around my room preparing to do this work I kept getting this urge to do this session without any clothes on. At first I dismissed it, but the more preparation I did the stronger the feeling got and I realized that this clearly was going to be a part of the work I was doing that night.

When I sat down, the room lit by candles, the only thing in contact with my body was the floor and the stones. I removed everything that was not a part of me, including my glasses and the hair tie holding back my hair. I had to be completely and totally myself. When I closed my eyes to begin I fell immediately into this sense of stillness and heard these words:

“I sit here, stripped bare, ready to open my heart to true forgiveness. By baring my body, I bare my soul.”

After this, triangles became a very prominent theme. I saw them in my minds eye and when I opened my eyes on occasion I noticed that I was sitting in front of a triangular grid that I had made in previous weeks and that the  candles I had lit were also arranged in a triangular shape.

I was also guided the image of a “mind, body, spirit” triangle where the mind and the body made up the base and spirit was represented at the point. I got the impression that this image was meant to communicate the importance of building a strong foundation by taking care of your mind and body so that you may better communicate with your more spiritual aspects. This made sense to me as triangles are one the strongest shape.

Looking back I think this concept is why I also felt called to perform a lymphatic drainage massage on my face and clear out my K27 meridian points which are located just below your collar bones on both the left and the right side of your body. I think I was preparing my body for deeper work.

Following this pattern,  work on my mind came next. During this work on my body I felt very empowered and sensual. When I finished the lymphatic massage, I realized that I was really resisting this feeling of sensuality. The more I opened myself up the this feeling the more the true purpose of this night’s work was revealed. This session was all about forgiving myself for the way I have shamed my physical body and letting go of that shame by expressing my sexuality and celebrating my body.

The longer I sat there holding the stones and breathing into this feeling of empowerment and sensuality the more I could feel the energy building in my sacral and heart chakras. I was basking in the joy of accepting my physical body and letting go of shame.

I also kept seeing images of indigenous people and observing how unashamed they were to show their physical bodies. The stones closed this experience with the following message.

“True freedom is knowing you can be completely yourself, uninfluenced by the thoughts of those around you. Freedom is not outside of one’s self. Freedom is found within when one can look at themselves and say ‘I love you’.”

The morning after this work I was still feeling very light and happy and open. Everything felt still, content, and serene. I was amazed at the insights I was gaining through this work. Little did I know that the best was yet to come.

I went into my third session feeling, tired, on edge, and easily irritated. I wasn’t exactly sure why but I had been feeling this way for the majority of the day. Because of this I immediately felt drawn to ground myself through my Earth Star chakra (This chakra is located about six inches below your feet and is highly attuned to the energy of Mother Earth). When I closed my eyes, I felt like I was seconds away from falling asleep where I was sitting. In my mind’s eye I could see the lemiscate shape of the grid and feel the energy moving through it. At first the energy was racing around, but the longer I sat there the more I realized that I could control the flow of the energy and got the impression that the illusion of  feeling out of control is what made me anxious and frustrated.

I could also feel a tightness in my heart chakra and got the message, “What are you holding on to?” I tried to let go of the tightness and this helped some but I found that without truly identifying and putting a name to what it was I was holding on to I could not fully let go of it.

When I paused to record this information an experience immediately popped into my mind that could be related to all the emotions I had been feeling that day. Two and a half years ago I went out to Iowa with the intention of going to chiropractic school. When I arrived out there I received my first ever energetic two-by-four to the side of the head that knocked me clean off what I perceived to be the path leading to the rest of my life. I won’t go into the details here as it is a long story (you can read it here if you want all the gory details). Needless to say it was a highly emotional experience that had me returning home less than a week after arriving.

As I sat writing, I realized that the tightness I was feeling in my heart was the fear that something like this event would happen to me again. I desperately want to make sure that I am living out my true purpose. I love doing so many different things that I often confuse myself and manufacture my own anxiety by trying to make myself choose between them. This experience was making me aware that I need to learn to identify the difference between feeling uncomfortable because I am growing and changing and feeling uncomfortable because I am not being myself.

Now that I had given a name to the feeling I felt that I was finally ready to truly let go of it and let me just say that it was one of the most powerful experiences I have had working with crystals. When I picked up the zoisite and obsidian from the grid I immediately felt a lot of energy move up and down my spine making me shiver and be unable to sit still. I breathed through this until I became acclimated to the energy. Then I began to speak.

Out loud I began to name all of the feelings that I was letting go of around this. Among them was the fear of it happening again and the blame I had been placing on myself for allowing it to happen in the first place. This led to a huge emotional release where I finally felt all of the emotions I had buried. To put it simply I started balling which is something that is completely out of the norm for me.

I also remember specifying to myself that letting go does not mean forgetting, it just means that you are no longer letting those past thoughts, events, people, or feelings to affect you. They will always be a part of who you are but they no longer have control.

After this releasing phase I began to vocalize all of the things all of the things that I was accepting. Funnily enough I cannot remember many of these.

As I approached the end of this night’s work, I expressed the fear that I would still feel all of these feelings after this experience. In response I received the message “there are no quick fixes” and got the impression that not all of my problems were going to be solved in one night. I am on a journey of never ending self improvement and that means that I will forever be learning and growing from my experiences.

This experience was so profound for me that I couldn’t help but share it with you. This grid is one of the strongest I have ever built and by no means do I feel like I am done working with it. Embracing Forgiveness through Stillness has become my intention for the month of March and this grid will be set up for the duration of this month – if not longer. I invite you to take a few minutes and sit in its energy and let it guide you in your own healing experience. In these three sessions this grid has revealed to me three aspects of my being that I was not aware were having such a profound effect on my life.

That being said, I want share with you all the forgiveness ritual that that I mentioned at the beginning of this post. In this video I guide you through your own healing work with a stone of your choice or with this grid. I hope that helps you identify and release what is holding you back. I would love to hear about your experience!

Namaste to you all.

Taking Care of Your Physical Body with Rhodonite

Taking care of your physical body is a necessity of continuing spiritual growth. To neglect the health of your body is to limit the reach of the soul. Be aware of the aches in your body because in them are opportunities to grow through self-healing


I came into the past week really feeling pushed to make a change in the way I was taking care of my physical body. I was tired of the stomach aches and of the mind fog that kept me from really interacting the way I would have liked with everything going on around me. I couldn’t process information as quickly as I wanted, and my body felt heavy. When I made it my intention to focus on giving my physical body what it needed the stone rhodonite immediately jumped out and wanted to help support me in this. In my initial meditation with the stone, I received the message quoted above as well as guidance to really tune into what my body needed as far as diet and exercise in order to support all of the energetic change that was occurring in my life. It wanted me to make note of the foods that made me feel sluggish or unmotivated and which made my head foggy. I could already identify a number of the foods that irritated my system – primarily gluten and dairy – so I eliminated them from my diet. I planned to eat more vegetables and drank at least one green drink (doTERRAs TerraGreens) a day. I also became aware that I needed to support my lymphatic system more as toxins were removed from my body. I added a red calcite gem elixir to my army of crystal elixirs and performed  lymphatic drainage massage on my face in an attempt to remove build up and I wore my rhodonite stone in a necklace around my neck as energetic support throughout the day.

I did well for the first few days. I could definitely feel a difference in my body after just a couple of days of clean eating. I felt lighter energetically, I had more energy, and my head was less foggy in the afternoon. These observations became even more clear when I fell off the wagon on Friday. A lunch date and birthday dinner had me eating foods that were heavy in dairy, gluten and carbohydrates and this trend carried into the weekend. I found myself feeling more tired, sluggish, energetically heavy and – surprisingly – hungrier than I had been when I was eating less at the beginning of the week. It was as if my body was craving food not because I didn’t eat enough, because I definitely did, but because I didn’t eat what my body needed and thus it wasn’t satisfied. Early in the week I had also received a message from rhodonite about cravings. It said “You want those foods for the instant gratification of ‘feeling good’ that they give you emotionally. When you are craving something you know you can’t have ask yourself why you want it. What is going on spiritually or emotionally to make you crave it?” This is something that I am going to keep in mind as I continued to work with rhodonite and jump back on the healthy eating wagon once more!

Now, It turns out that rhodonite wasn’t only working on me this week. When I went up to see my horse Scout on Saturday he was being all cuddly and cute nuzzling me like he sometimes likes to do. The more he did it, however, the more I realized that he was gravitating towards my necklace which had the rhodonite tumble in it.

When I took the stone out of the cage and showed it to him, he naturally tried to eat it first but then he dropped his head and his eyes got all half lidded like he was taking a nap. For those of you that don’t know horses, when they lower their heads it is a sign of relaxation. Now, as he is sitting there just basking in the vibes of the crystal I am thinking about why he would be enjoying this stone so much. Then I remembered that he had been having some digestive upset with some diarrhea in the past week. I wasn’t too worried as I have realized through tracking it that this is cycle he goes through about once a month. It normally only lasts a few days and he never stops acting like his goofy self. This time it seemed to be lasting a little bit longer though. When I was feeding him dinner earlier in the week it occurred to me that the hay might have been prolonging this digestive episode as it was slightly candied and very sweet. I got the sense that he felt like we would if all we at for a week were desserts.

Looking back on all of this I realized that the Rhodonite stone that I had been wearing helped me tap into what was going on physically for my pony and make the changes he needed. Saturday was the only day he actively sought the stone for himself and I believe it was because he needed a little extra support re-configuring his body much in the same way as I am seeking to reconfigure my own. This just goes to show how much our animal companions mirror us, sometimes in order to bring attention to issues with our own health, and how the energies of crystals are just as beneficial to them as they are for us. If you would like some more information on how you or your furry friends can benefit from the energy of crystals, please don’t hesitate to contact me with any questions or to schedule a session!


The Importance of Self-Love

Self love is probably one of the hardest concepts for us to grasp as humans. With so much going on in our outer world, we hardly ever take the time to look within. Those times that we do turn our eyes to ourselves it is almost always with criticism: “My nose is too long” “My thighs are too big” “I don’t pay enough attention to my family” ‘I really suck at communicating”. Whatever our go-to phrase is, we often bully and shame ourselves into trying to do better but it doesn’t work. The reason this doesn’t work is because of the low vibration of energy that you are using to try and create change.

When you bully yourself, you feel badly which lowers your vibration and makes it hard to find the motivation to do what you actually want to do or change what you want to change. I think it is safe to say that most people have the desire to be happy in their life and if we take a minute to think about the feeling of happiness we find that it is a very uplifting, high vibrational energy. It is difficult to achieve happiness if we are stuck in the low vibration cycle of criticism and shaming. So how to we break this cycle?

Self-love. Now, this is really easy to say but monumentally hard to do because when I say “self-love” what I really mean is “unconditional self-love”. Imagine how you would feel if you loved yourself as much as your dog loves you. Animals are unbelievable examples of unconditional love. We have all seen the videos on Facebook of dogs playing with deer, of the cat saving a puppy from a ravine, and of the whale saving the human from a shark. How can we achieve that level of unconditional love towards ourselves?

We have to start small. We have to be kinder to ourselves. When we make a perceived “mistake”, instead of beating ourselves up about it we have to move on to what we have learned from the situation. How has this situation better prepared us for when this happens again? When we find ourselves slipping into the cycle of self-deprecation we need to remind ourselves what we love about ourselves. We need to find a way to support ourselves and our goals in a way that raises our vibration so we can attract more of what we want.


As you may have guessed but now, one great way of raising your vibration and promoting self-love is with the help of crystals. The number one go-to stone for love of any kind is rose quartz. This pink stone is the ultimate comfort stone. Its energy is a soothing balm to the emotions and uplifting in its support of the heart chakra.

The heart chakra governs the feeling of love, joy and happiness so if you find that you are really struggling with any of these things working with a stone that supports this chakra is going to be very beneficial.


Another helpful stone for supporting the heart chakra is chrysoprase. This green stone also helps to break cycles and thought patterns as well as promoting forgiveness making a really great choice if you are struggling with negative thought patterns where you shame and bully yourself. 

I would also highly recommend working with Charoite. While it is associated with the crown chakra and not the heart, it has been my experience that this stone is very helpful in managing emotions that get a little out of control. It is also good at breaking patterns and cycles but also works to lead you towards your path of service or soul purpose. Its higher vibration helps to connect you to higher divine guidance and purpose.


To support yourself, I would recommend carrying a tumbled stone in your pocket or wearing them in jewelry. I will also have rose quartz bracelets available soon in my shop on Facebook. I also have a Heart Chakra Gem Oil available for sale that you can check out.

To support myself this month I have created a crystal grid of rose quartz and clear quartz points. If you find yourself in need of a little extra support and love this month please feel free to take a moment to close your eyes and connect into this grid which is pictured below. Just take a deep breath and feel the energy moving through your body. If you feel drawn to, repeat the mantra “I am loved” as you continue to breathe the energy through your body. When you have finished basking in the loving energy of the grid please take a moment to ground yourself back into your body before continuing on with your day. If you feel drawn to do so please share your experiences either in the comments here or on my Facebook page!

Namaste everyone!

“Self-love is built on the purest of intentions followed by the kindest urging of the soul towards thoughts that build on the feelings of the heart”

My Forgotten Chakra

I had a really interesting experience last week during a session with the fabulous Michele Lowry of Nikoe Natural Therapies. I scheduled the session to get some insight into how I could better support myself nutritionally. In our conversation before the session started, I also mentioned that I had some soreness around the base of my neck. I had read in a brochure on digestion from Dynamite Specialty Products that when digestion is poor a person can develop a hump at the base of their neck where it meets their shoulders because over stimulation to nerves in this area that stimulate digestion so I thought the soreness I was experiencing in this area could be related to that.

Unsurprisingly, the session revealed that there were quite a few changes I needed to make to support myself nutritionally but there was more going on energetically with my neck than I had originally thought. Michele told me that I had energy pushing down on the top of my head that was putting pressure on the base of my neck much like a heavy weight would. To help me relieve this pressure she had me visualize a door opening in the top of my head and focus on moving the energy upwards into the divine. When I did as she asked I literally imagined a piece of my skull popping open like a hatch and saw a lot of pink energy flowing upwards from the opening. Within this column of pink light I also saw little lotus flowers blooming. The tension at the base of my neck eased almost immediately.


This experience floored me because I realized that I had been trying to deal with the brain fog and unsettledness I had been feeling in my head by grounding myself when I really had to relieve the pressure by opening my crown chakra. It has never once occured to me to relieve this pressure by moving energy upwards. The more I thought about the experience the more I came to realize that my crown chakra had been almost completely closed and the energy from the divine was pushing on it to get in while the energy that flows through the other six chakras was getting stuck inside my head and resulting in the feeling of being ungrounded.

Furthermore, I also realized how very  little I think about my crown chakra. I don’t have any memories of doing any consistent work with it. It is always just kind of there. My focus is almost always on one of the lower physical chakras like the sacral, solar plexus, or heart. I think it is about time that I payed some attention to this forgotten chakra!

Simply being aware of the fact that this is the chakra I forget about has already done wonders for keeping this chakra energized simply because I am paying more attention to it. Since the session I have also been visualizing a lotus flower at my crown chakra to help keep it open and the energy flowing through it and I have been using a Crown Chakra Gem Oil that I made from crystal elixirs and essential oils to help support it.


Now I have a challenge for you! Identify your forgotten chakra! This may be as easy as identifying which chakra you don’t think about but if you find you are having difficulties think about what has been bothering you lately either physically or emotionally. Ask yourself questions. Is it easier to move energy up or down through your body? Where does the energy feel stuck? You can even ask your stones! If you happen to have a chakra set – which I highly recommend – place all the stones in a bag, shake them up a little focusing on the intention of identifying your forgotten chakra and then pull out a stone! The same technique can be used when visiting a stone shop. Focus your energy on finding a stone to help you support your forgotten chakra, whether you know which one it is or not, and see what stone or stones you are drawn to then look up their chakra associations. Also, here is a lovely image I found tells you what each chakra is governed by and what blocks it. Please feel free to share your experiences here or on facebook! Namaste to all!


Pain Management with Crystals

We all experience pain at some point in our lives. Whether it is a bruise, a cut, a cramp, a sprain, or a broken bone a crystal can help! Personally, I use crystals all the time to help with sore muscles, bruises and old injuries so I want to share some of my go to crystals and techniques with you.



Malachite is a copper based mineral that is AMAZING at soothing any sort of pain! I use it for sore joints and feet after a long day at the barn. I also use it for abdominal cramps and lower back pain. I just hold this stone to the area of pain and focus on the energy moving through and dissipating the pain. If you don’t want to hold the stone you could just tape the stone to the area using medical tape.

Malachite is also great for detoxing and is a very soothing stone emotionally making it helpful for those suffering from depression.



Chyrsocolla is another copper based stone that I have found to be very supportive of joints. Like malachite, it is helpful with cramps especially those associated with the menstrual cycle. Being a stone that is associated with the heart chakra, chrysocolla is also helpful in supporting conditions that affect the circulatory and respiratory systems such as blood disorders, asthma, and blood pressure.

Personally, I have used the egg shaped stone above to massage aching muscles on both myself and my horse.



I have just recently become very attracted to septarian while in Arizona. The hiking was really taking a toll on my out of shape muscles and all I kept hearing in my head was “septarian, septarian, septarian” every time I thought about the pain. I had pulled out some septarian for my horse a while back when he started to show some signs of muscle soreness. I also remembered that septarian is good for flexibility – both physically and emotionally – and supports bones as well.

Septarian is actually a mixture of minerals that include clay ironstone, calcite, jasper, dolomite, and aragonite.

Again, I have been using this stone primarily in the form of massage but have also been toying with the idea of creating a crystal elixir that can be sprayed onto, and absorbed by the skin.

A little disclaimer here. Not all stones are suitable to make elixirs with as they contain elements that can leach into the water if you are using the direct method. For example, Malachite and Chrysocolla elixirs should not be made by placing the crystals directly in water as these stones contain copper which is considered toxic if taken internally. 



Rhodonite is one of the best stones I have come across for all around pain management and wound healing. This stone is remarkable! I have sprayed a rhodonite elixir on cuts, sore muscles, bruises and even a sunburn and found that it provided almost immediate relief.

I learned to use rhodonite for bruises from a post my mother shared with me on Facebook showing its effects on a pretty nasty bruise that this woman’s daughter had come home with.


Amazing right? The effects can also be seen in this video.

On top of its amazing physical abilities, rhodonite is also a very calming and stress relieving stone that allows us to stay centered in the event of an accident, shock or panic.

Clear quartz points


When in doubt . . . pull a clear quartz out! Clear quartz points are really great at channeling energy. They are often used in conjunction with other stones as magnifiers or directors but they can also be used on their own.

To remove pain, hold the point to the area where the pain is located with the point facing away from your body, muscle, joint, etc. breathe deeply and envision the pain moving into the crystal’s base and away out of the point. You can also move the crystal in small clockwise circles as you do this to break up the stagnant energy around the injury.

 . . . And many, MANY more!

I could go on and on about all of the crystals out there that can be used to help with pain. There is a stone for EVERYTHING! Sprains, strains, eye pain, ear pain, ligament and tendon injuries you name it there is a crystal that can help. The stones listed above are those that I use almost every single day. If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact me!